Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver

Lukas Schafer, LPCC

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I’m Lukas, and I provide Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver.

I believe that we are all deserve knowing the joys of healing, love, and connection. And we are all quite capable of it. 

My Approach

I provide Individual and Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I listen to my clients without judgement and celebrate their strengths. So, this means that together, we improve emotional well-being in ways that honor who we are and what we’ve experienced. We embrace our path towards connection and living our lives to their fullest potential. I believe that our pain and struggles are often connected to our relationships – with ourselves, our partners and families, and the cultures we live in. Who we are today is impacted by our past but does not have to be defined by it. So, we can find safety and healing through exploring our past, finding meaning, and making our relationships and bonds stronger today.

People who work with me say they experience a genuine warmth and are naturally comfortable. Because of this, I often hear that I meet people where they are and have helped them express unknown parts of themselves. The couples that I work with have often commented on experiencing safety and balance in therapy with me. Even though we can feel worn down or hurt in our relationships, I work to help people discover and strengthen the bonds that brought them together. Many of the men that I have worked with say that I helped them to understand themselves in today’s world without judgement or criticism.

I offer Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver for:

  • Communication
  • Trust
  • Intimacy
  • Premarital and Marriage Preparation
  • Conflict and Closeness
  • Affair Recovery

I offer Individual Counseling in Denver that addresses:

  • Men’s issues: Isolation, anger, shame, relationships, sexual issues
  • Relationships
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Self-Esteem
  • Healing the pain of difficult relationships

My Background

After receiving my Bachelor of Science in Psychology from the University of Utah, I worked with adults in acute psychiatry. My time working inside led me to find a joy for extensive work in wilderness therapy with teens and families. This work encouraged me to pursue additional training and brought me to the University of Colorado Denver where I received my Master of Arts in Counseling, specializing in Couple and Family Therapy. I am currently pursuing certification in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.

My love for connection extends beyond being a therapist. My commitment to learning about people, food, and music has taken me across the world. Growing up in Utah and living in Colorado, I am passionate about being in nature and playing in the mountains during all four seasons. My real joy lies in the desert landscapes of southern Utah where I can connect with myself and loved ones in breathtaking canyons. 

Are you looking for a Male Marriage Counselor?

It may seem silly to think about, but one of the leading predictors of success in couples therapy and marriage counseling in Denver is how well you feel that you and the counselor fit. Being a male marriage counselor, some couples are seeking a perspective that allows for men’s issues in therapy to be explored with a therapist who gets it personally. Some partners want their partner to feel comfortable and know that the therapist gets what it’s like to be a man in therapy, and understands what stresses men go through in their lives. Alternatively, some couples wonder if having a male marriage counselor would work against them – a woman may wonder if she can truly feel heard in a room with two men. Or, a man might wonder if he can open up about his stress with a male marriage counselor.  All of these questions are important to explore, and having a conversation with your partner about what type of marriage counselor you are looking for can really help you to explore your hopes and fears for therapy. We can talk about that at a complimentary consultation as well!

Therapy for Men’s Issues

If you are hoping to work on men’s issues specifically, I’m happy to say that I love that work. Men often don’t want to talk about their problems, and want to find good solutions to the issues that they are faced with. But we need support just like everyone else, and we need it in the way that fits our style best.  I firmly believe that it’s my calling to create a space for men to work through the things that block them from realizing their goals for their families and careers, and to become able to really feel alive. I’m honored every time I sit with someone and explore the issues that men face – relationship stress, feelings of failure or anger, career stress, etc. You don’t have to see yourself as mentally ill to see a therapist for men’s issues – men don’t think twice about going to the gym or even seeing a personal trainer. Your mind and internal wellbeing are just as important. So, if you are wondering if I might be the right fit for this work with you, please get in touch.

Complimentary Consultations for Individual or Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver

I offer a free 20-30 minute consultation for Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver to help you determine if you’d like to move forward with couples or individual therapy. It can be a great way to experience what it’s like to try meeting the therapist without the commitment, get important questions addressed, and feel certain that you’ve picked the right couples therapist for you.  Call (720) 443-1947 to schedule your couples counseling consultation with our Client Specialist who can help you get started.

For more information on how to prepare for a successful Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Denver experience, you can check out these helpful articles:

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Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: The Most-Effective Approach